If you seek something out, you’re going to find it.
College is the definition of freedom for teenagers. For some people it’s their first time away from home, and it can be a lot to adjust to. The tricky part is that newfound freedom comes hand-in-hand with developing a sense of responsibility. When you go off to college, your parents aren’t there to tell you what you can and can’t do. Most kids who party in high school have built up some elaborate system of how to do it, and it usually involves a lot of lying to their parents. In college your parents have no way of knowing what you do with your time, and some people take that for granted.
Just because someone tells you “This isn’t a party school” doesn’t mean that partying doesn’t go on. Schools that are labelled “Party Schools” are named that because partying is the majority of what goes on there. Just because a college doesn’t consider itself a party school doesn’t mean you won’t encounter it.
Something important to remember is that a lot of students on campus are over the age of 21, so of course there will be alcohol around. I know that at my school you’re allowed to have as much alcohol as you want in your dorm room as long as you’re above the legal drinking age. However, just because a person is drinking, it doesn’t mean they’re partying. Vice versa, just because someone goes to a party it doesn’t mean they are drinking.
The honest truth is: if you go to college and you want to party, you’ll probably find what you’re looking for.
How to Stay Safe
I know it’s common knowledge, but it needs to be said. If you are under the age of 21, it is illegal for you to consume alcohol. I feel like it’s a good thing to constantly remind people of that, even though they are obviously aware of that fact. The government didn’t make this law just to keep you from having fun. They did the research and they made a judgement call with teenagers’ best interests in mind.
If you ask me, I don’t think you should drink at all if you’re underage. However, I know people are still going to do it, so I want to help you do it safely. The main idea is to stay safe. That means that you should never go to a party alone, and that you should already have a Designated Driver set up before you go to the party. When you go with your friends you can all watch out for each other and no one will get left behind. It’s also important to know your limits and do not test them.
Don’t be Afraid
No one should have a fear of parties and drinking. Even though some people are breaking the law by drinking underage, it doesn’t have any effect on you. I’m fortunate that all the parties at my school happen in houses off campus, so it’s extremely easy to avoid them. I have no interest in partying at all, but my friends go all the time. Just remember to be smart, safe, and never go anywhere alone.
Chances are, at some point there will be alcohol present in your residence hall. News flash: some people are really dumb. Even though it’s against the rules, some kids will keep alcoholic beverages in their dorms, and may even have party-like “gatherings” in their room.
If your roommate is someone who drinks, you need to be honest with them and express how you feel. Even though my roommate is my best friend, I had to stand my ground and got a little aggressive when she wanted to store alcohol in the room. I don’t know if its the same everywhere, but if RA’s find anything you’re not allowed to have, the entire room gets written up. That means if your roommate has alcohol and the RA’s find it you would get in an equal amount of trouble. Be very clear with your roommate about how you feel when it comes to drinking and partying. If you or your roommate goes to a party, the other person might not want a drunk person coming in while they’re trying to sleep.
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A lot of college kids end up partying, and most people never run into any trouble. However, you need to be smart and stay safe if you decide to partake. Also remember, you should never feel bad about not wanting to party. People might try to convince you to go, but if you say no they probably won’t bother you again. Partying is not something to be fearful of.
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